{"id":63327,"date":"2009-04-25T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2009-04-25T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/?p=63327"},"modified":"2009-04-25T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2009-04-25T00:00:00","slug":"aldatmak","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/2009\/04\/25\/aldatmak\/","title":{"rendered":"Aldatmak…"},"content":{"rendered":"H\u00fcz\u00fcn y\u00fczl\u00fc bir gen\u00e7 kad\u0131n\u0131n k\u0131r\u0131k g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemesi \u015fimdi bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m. Hi\u00e7 tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir resmin sahibinin kim oldu\u011funu, nas\u0131l biri oldu\u011funu, neleri sevdi\u011fini, severken neleri g\u00f6ze ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Bu gen\u00e7 kad\u0131n arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile aldat\u0131ld\u0131m. Aldatma yolunun ince \u00e7izgisinin di\u011fer taraf\u0131nda O var. \u0130kinci kad\u0131n kimilerinin deyimiyle… \u0130kinci kad\u0131n… Birinci ben miydim? \u00a0Kime g\u00f6re, \u00a0neye g\u00f6re ikinci veya birinci\u00a0 kad\u0131n olursunuz ki? Kim \u00e7izer bumun s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131n\u0131, s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131n neresinde durursan\u0131z ilksinizdir de, nerden sonra ba\u015flar ikincilik?\r
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Sadece kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in mi ge\u00e7erlidir bu? Aldatan hep erkek midir mesela? Birinci ve ikinci adamlar yok mudur? Dinlemediniz mi siz aldat\u0131lan erkek hikayelerini? Ben \u00e7ok dinledim… B\u00fcy\u00fck b\u00fcy\u00fck laflar\u0131n, slogan haline gelmi\u015f aforizmalar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda aldatmak ve aldat\u0131lmak insan ruhunun en derin b\u0131\u00e7ak yaralar\u0131d\u0131r sadece. G\u00fcvenin bitti\u011fi yerde yatarlar ve g\u00fcven yoksa bir ili\u015fkide \u00e7ok \u015fey geride kalm\u0131\u015f demektir. \u00a0\u00a0\r
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Oysa hepimiz biliriz ki huzurdur arad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z sadece. Huzurun i\u00e7 zar\u0131d\u0131r g\u00fcven… O zar y\u0131rt\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kanamaya ba\u015flar\u0131z. S\u0131zlayan etimiz de\u011fil ruhumuzdur. O nedenle\u00a0 ac\u0131 \u00e7ekeriz. A\u015fk yaralar\u0131 o nedenle \u00e7ok yaralar insano\u011flunu. Ve bizler aldat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in, aldand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in \u00f6nce kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakine ard\u0131ndan kendimize k\u0131zar\u0131z. \u00d6fke, \u00f6\u00e7 alma duygusunu beraberinde getirir. K\u0131r\u0131k cam par\u00e7alar\u0131 dolar y\u00fcre\u011fe, her k\u0131p\u0131rdad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda biraz\u00a0daha kanar\u0131z. \r
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\u0130nsan neden aldat\u0131r ki bir di\u011ferini? Mutsuzlu\u011fun sarmalad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ili\u015fkiler i\u00e7erisinde sadece sevgi ile, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k ile d\u00f6nmez\u00a0 d\u00f6nemez o d\u00f6ng\u00fc… O nedenledir ki ili\u015fkiler bir \u00e7e\u015fit al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011fa do\u011fru yol almaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda do\u011fald\u0131r birinin di\u011ferinden \u00f6nce s\u0131k\u0131lmas\u0131… S\u0131k\u0131lmak s\u0131k\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 da beraberinde getirir. O s\u0131k\u0131\u015fma asl\u0131nda ili\u015fkiden ziyade aldatana aittir. \u015eahsi mutsuzluk ve tatminsizliktir ger\u00e7ek olan. D\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fckten, konu\u015fmaktan, anlamaktan, anlatmaktan uzak insanlar\u0131n gizli hain silah\u0131d\u0131r aldatmak… \r
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Mutsuz bir insansan aldat\u0131rs\u0131n. Bu mutsuzlu\u011fun nedeni kar\u015f\u0131ndaki insanda de\u011fildir senin zannetti\u011fin gibi. Kendi i\u00e7indeki b\u00fcy\u00fck kara deli\u011fin i\u00e7erisinde kaybolurken fark edersin yal\u0131n acizli\u011fini. O nedenle durup d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden, sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n neler olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 analiz etmeden atars\u0131n kendini o girdaba. Zannedersin ki sen aldatt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda d\u00fcnyan d\u00fczelecek, zenginle\u015fecek. Oysa bilemezsin ki asl\u0131nda kand\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n sadece kendinsindir. Ge\u00e7ici anl\u0131k bo\u015falmalard\u0131r ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n sadece. Uzun bir sevi\u015fmenin ard\u0131ndan sar\u0131l\u0131p uyuman\u0131n getirdi\u011fi zenginlik de\u011fildir o. Tek d\u00fcze bir sevi\u015fmenin saniyeler s\u00fcren bo\u015falmas\u0131d\u0131r sadece ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n. \u00a0\r
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Ve sana “ge\u00e7mi\u015f olsun” demekten ba\u015fka bir \u00e7are yoktur asl\u0131nda. “Aldatt\u0131n… Sana ge\u00e7mi\u015f olsun dostum”. Mutlulu\u011fu bir ba\u015fka yerde, bir ba\u015fka insanda, bir ba\u015fka ruhta aramaya devam edeceksin. Oysa yok \u00f6yle bir mutluluk. Sen seninle bir ba\u015f\u0131nayken yal\u0131n yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7erisinde mutlu olabiliyorsan huzurlusundur sadece. \u00c7ok sevdi\u011fim bir adam\u0131n\u00a0 dedi\u011fi gibi; “insan kimseyi aldatamaz, aldatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 kendisidir sadece… ”\r

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