{"id":62437,"date":"2007-08-02T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2007-08-02T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/?p=62437"},"modified":"2007-08-02T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2007-08-02T00:00:00","slug":"hayatimizi-calan-rollerimiz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/2007\/08\/02\/hayatimizi-calan-rollerimiz\/","title":{"rendered":"Hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7alan rollerimiz…"},"content":{"rendered":"Ne kadar m\u00fcd\u00fcrsek, profes\u00f6rsek, doktorsak, m\u00fchendissek, yazarsak, “bey”sek o kadar var olabiliyoruz. \r
Toplumsal rollerimizle \u00fczerini s\u0131ms\u0131k\u0131 \u00f6rtt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz “ben”imizi soluksuz b\u0131rak\u0131yor, bo\u011fuyoruz. Ahmet”i, “Mehmet”i, “Ay\u015fe”yi, “Necla”y\u0131 doyas\u0131ya ya\u015fayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in ba\u015fka hayatlar bizim hayat\u0131m\u0131zm\u0131\u015f gibi oluyor. \r
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Bizim hayat\u0131m\u0131zm\u0131\u015f gibi olan rollerimiz gitti\u011finde sudan \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015f bal\u0131\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fcyor, kalakal\u0131yoruz. Rollerimizin hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131p g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc fark etti\u011fimizde \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 oluyor…\r
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T\u0131p profes\u00f6r\u00fc \u00e7ok yak\u0131n bir aile dostumuz var. Doktorlu\u011funu, profes\u00f6rl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc unutabildi\u011fi zamanlarda \u00e7ok keyifli zamanlar ge\u00e7iririz. Edebiyattan, sanattan, ya\u015famdan, han\u0131mlardan, \u00e7ocuklardan konu\u015fur, saatlerin nas\u0131l ak\u0131p gitti\u011finin fark\u0131na varmay\u0131z. Ta ki, o ana kadar. Ne zaman ki benim han\u0131m bir hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan konu a\u00e7ar, b\u00fcy\u00fc bozulur. Dostum doktorlu\u011funu ve profes\u00f6rl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc an\u0131msam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r art\u0131k. \r
Saatlerdir \u00dcmit ve Hasan olarak s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz sohbetin devam\u0131na olanak kalmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Benim de her zaman oldu\u011fu gibi i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e g\u00fclece\u011fim zamana var\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \r
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Hasan’\u0131n \u00f6nce do\u011fasal y\u00fcz\u00fc gider, yerine “etkili ve yetkili” bir maske gelir. \r
Her zaman oldu\u011fu gibi sa\u011f elinin ba\u015f parma\u011f\u0131yla ka\u015f\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerini ka\u015f\u0131r gibi yaparken, “eeeee”ye benzer bir ses \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. “Bak \u015fimdi” diye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda da art\u0131k bizim Hasan ba\u015fka biri olmu\u015ftur, onu geri getirmek i\u00e7in epey zaman gerekecektir. \r
Bunun tam tersi de olur. Hi\u00e7 tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z biriyle tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131l\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. “Arkada\u015f\u0131m \u00dcmit” diye takdim edilirsiniz. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki bey ya da han\u0131mla g\u00fcndelik ya\u015famdan konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flar, hayat\u0131n i\u00e7ine dalmaya ba\u015flars\u0131n\u0131z. \r
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Her \u015fey do\u011fasald\u0131r. “Ne i\u015f yap\u0131yorsunuz” sorusu geldi\u011finde b\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fcn bozulma zaman\u0131na var\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlars\u0131n\u0131z.\r
S\u00f6yledi\u011finiz mesle\u011fe g\u00f6re kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin y\u00fcz\u00fc \u00e7e\u015fitli bi\u00e7imlere girer. \r
Yan\u0131t\u0131n\u0131z i\u015f\u00e7i, emekli, i\u015fsiz ise farkl\u0131, genel m\u00fcd\u00fcr, doktor, y\u00f6netici ise farkl\u0131 bir y\u00fczle kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya gelirsiniz. \r
Sonraki konu\u015fmalar\u0131n art\u0131k h\u00fckm\u00fc kalmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \r
Ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n en ac\u0131kl\u0131 halidir bu. \r
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Bedenimiz, ruhumuz, bir yerlerde mahzun, soluksuz kal\u0131rken rollerimizle avunarak t\u00fcketti\u011fimiz hayatlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu kez fark\u0131nda bile de\u011filizdir. Fark\u0131nda olsak da rollerimizle var olmak daha \u00e7ekici gelir. Rollerimiz olmadan kendimizi tan\u0131mlayacak t\u00fcmce bulmakta g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck \u00e7ekeriz. \r
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Prof. Dr. \u00dcst\u00fcn D\u00f6kmen, TRT’de yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 “K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u015eeyler” programlar\u0131n\u0131n birinde, r\u00fctbelerin, makamlar\u0131n, rollerin bir ayr\u0131kotu gibi ya\u015fam bah\u00e7emizi kaplad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan yak\u0131nm\u0131\u015f, bu ayr\u0131k otlar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6k\u00fcl\u00fcp gitti\u011finde, geriye art\u0131k ekilip bi\u00e7ilemeyen bir bah\u00e7e, i\u015fe yaramayan bir \u00f6m\u00fcr kald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemi\u015f, \u00c7inli bir bilgeden g\u00fczel bir yakla\u015f\u0131m aktarm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u00c7inli bilge \u015f\u00f6yle diyor: \r
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“Do\u011fdu\u011fun zaman sadece 1’sin. B\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck\u00e7e 1’in yan\u0131na s\u0131f\u0131rlar eklersin. Diplomalar\u0131n, unvanlar\u0131n, rozetlerin olur. Evlerin, arabalar\u0131n olur. Bunlar\u0131n her biri s\u0131f\u0131rd\u0131r, ama 1’in sa\u011f\u0131na konulduk\u00e7a senin de\u011ferin artar. Ancak b\u00fct\u00fcn bu s\u0131f\u0131rlar\u0131n de\u011feri sen hayatta oldu\u011fun s\u00fcrece vard\u0131r. Sen \u00f6ld\u00fcn, 1 gitti. S\u0131f\u0131rlar\u0131n hi\u00e7bir anlam\u0131 kalmad\u0131….” \r
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Ne ho\u015f de\u011fil mi? \r
S\u0131f\u0131rlar\u0131n \u00fczerine kurulan hayatlar, asl\u0131nda olmas\u0131 gerekene varolu\u015fumuza en b\u00fcy\u00fck engeli olu\u015fturmuyor mu? \r
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E\u015fyalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, unvanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, rollerimizin d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ba\u015fka bir d\u00fcnya oldu\u011funu bir an\u0131msayabilsek, “ben”imizle bar\u0131\u015fabilsek, yiyen, i\u00e7en, gezen, g\u00f6ren yan\u0131m\u0131zla bulu\u015fabilsek, insan oldu\u011fumuzu an\u0131msayabilsek, mutlulu\u011fun hemen yak\u0131n\u0131m\u0131zda bir yerlerde oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rebilirdik. Hayat\u0131m\u0131z, hayatlar\u0131m\u0131z ne g\u00fczel olurdu…

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Ne kadar m\u00fcd\u00fcrsek, profes\u00f6rsek, doktorsak, m\u00fchendissek, yazarsak, “bey”sek o kadar var olabiliyoruz. Toplumsal rollerimizle \u00fczerini s\u0131ms\u0131k\u0131 \u00f6rtt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz “ben”imizi soluksuz b\u0131rak\u0131yor, bo\u011fuyoruz. Ahmet”i, “Mehmet”i, “Ay\u015fe”yi, “Necla”y\u0131 […]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[62],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62437"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=62437"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62437\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=62437"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=62437"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=62437"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}