{"id":124672,"date":"2025-10-01T13:15:00","date_gmt":"2025-10-01T10:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/?p=124672"},"modified":"2026-03-09T12:45:34","modified_gmt":"2026-03-09T09:45:34","slug":"yasliligin-zarafeti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/2025\/10\/01\/yasliligin-zarafeti\/","title":{"rendered":"Ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n Zarafeti"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ra\u015fel Rakella Asal<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn parkta, bir bankta tek ba\u015f\u0131na oturan ya\u015fl\u0131 bir adam g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Ellerine bak\u0131yordu. Sanki ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ellerinde ta\u015f\u0131yor gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler i\u00e7indeydi. Ge\u00e7mi\u015f y\u0131llar\u0131na bakar gibiydi. Onu dikkatlice g\u00f6zlemeye ba\u015flad\u0131m. Bir s\u00fcre sonra bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 parkta oynayan \u00e7ocuklara \u00e7evirdi. \u00c7ocuklar \u00e7imlerde top pe\u015finde ko\u015fuyorlard\u0131. K\u00f6pekler etrafta z\u0131pl\u0131yorlard\u0131. A\u015f\u0131klar g\u00fcn bat\u0131m\u0131nda birbirlerine yak\u0131n uzanm\u0131\u015flard\u0131. Ebeveynler ba\u015fka bir bankta \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n yak\u0131n\u0131nda toplanm\u0131\u015flard\u0131. G\u00fcne\u015f bat\u0131yordu. A\u011fa\u00e7lardan uzun g\u00f6lgeler uzan\u0131yordu. Huzur dolu bir g\u00fcn bat\u0131m\u0131yd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131k genellikle korkulan, ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lan bir d\u00f6nem olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr. Oysa, ben ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015fam\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn daha net g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc bir evre olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum. Gen\u00e7likteki h\u0131rslar\u0131n, acelelerin, sab\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131n yerini daha yava\u015f, daha sakin bir ritim al\u0131r. Bir yandan zaman\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 kabullenen, di\u011fer yandan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u015feylerde anlam bulabilen ya\u015fl\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z olmu\u015ftur san\u0131r\u0131m. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bankta oturan ya\u015fl\u0131 adam bana anneannemi hat\u0131rlatt\u0131. Aile toplant\u0131lar\u0131nda herkesten daha fazla \u015fey alg\u0131l\u0131yor gibiydi, uzun uzun uzaklara dalar, i\u00e7inde oldu\u011fumuz zaman ve mek\u00e2ndan kopar, daha sonra soruldu\u011funda, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6zden ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 keskin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 ortaya koyard\u0131. \u201cYa\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131mdan \u00e7ok ya\u015fad\u0131m ben\u201d der gibiydi. Ya\u015fam\u0131na ne \u00e7ok \u015fey s\u0131\u011fd\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u0130\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u0130zmir Yahudi toplumuna g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc hizmet etmekle yetinmemi\u015f \u00c7ocuk Esirgeme Kurumu gibi kentte hizmet veren di\u011fer yard\u0131m kurumlar\u0131na destek vermi\u015f, adeta ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 sosyal hizmetlere adam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u0130\u00e7inden ge\u00e7ti\u011fi mekanlar\u0131, tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ki\u015fileri, tecr\u00fcbelerinin t\u00fcm ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 aktar\u0131rd\u0131. O anlat\u0131rken aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerim de ona adeta e\u015flik eder, p\u00fcr dikkat anlatT\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 dinlerlerdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anneannen \u00e7ok \u00f6zel bir ki\u015filikti. Son derece iyi kalpli, yard\u0131msever, yetenekli ve sosyal bir ki\u015filik. \u00c7evresine ve ailesine \u0131\u015f\u0131k sa\u00e7an bir insan. Yol alan, el veren bir kad\u0131n. Benim d\u00fcnyam\u0131 \u015fekillendiren ender ki\u015filerdendi. Benim i\u00e7in bir ana tanr\u0131\u00e7ayd\u0131. 20. y\u00fczy\u0131l\u0131n hemen ba\u015f\u0131nda Turgutlu’da ba\u015flay\u0131p \u00e7o\u011funlukla \u0130zmir’de s\u00fcren bir hayatt\u0131n izlerini ta\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130\u00e7inden s\u00fcrekli iyilik f\u0131\u015fk\u0131ran bir kad\u0131nd\u0131 anneannem Ra\u015fel Saban. Yoksullar\u0131, kimsesizleri, d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcnleri g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde bu duruma \u00e7areler aramaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131, b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlar\u0131 mutlu g\u00f6rmek istemesi, onun y\u00fcce g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc, erdemini, vicdan\u0131n\u0131n ne denli g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011funun g\u00f6stergesiydi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130zmir\u2019in Mezarl\u0131kba\u015f\u0131\u2019nda \u00e7at\u0131s\u0131 akan, duvarlar\u0131 teneke kutularla yamanm\u0131\u015f o derme \u00e7atma yoksullar ve ya\u015fl\u0131lar evinde bar\u0131nan, yar\u0131 a\u00e7 yar\u0131 tok hayatta kalmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan insanlar\u0131, peri\u015fan haldeki evi nas\u0131l ya\u015fan\u0131r hale getirdi\u011finin tan\u0131\u011f\u0131y\u0131m. \u0130nan\u0131lmaz disiplinli bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmayla yokluktan, yoksunluklardan el birli\u011fiyle ve dayan\u0131\u015fmayla pek \u00e7ok g\u00fczellikler yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n tan\u0131\u011f\u0131y\u0131m. O yoksulluk ve sefalet yuvas\u0131n\u0131, yard\u0131m toplayarak, pek \u00e7ok insan\u0131 ve yard\u0131m derneklerini organize ederek, temiz, d\u00fczg\u00fcn ve insanca ya\u015fanacak hale getirdi\u011finin tan\u0131\u011f\u0131y\u0131m. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anneannemin evinde hep bir hareket vard\u0131. Gelen, giden, telefonlar, misafirler eksik olmazd\u0131. Herkesin her saatte rahatl\u0131kla kap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7alaca\u011f\u0131 bir evdi. Ve de\u011fi\u015fik tipte insanlar bulunurdu. Haham\u0131ndan, Musevi cemaati ba\u015fkan\u0131ndan, zengininden yoksulundan kendi kurmu\u015f oldu\u011fu yoksullar evinin g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc kad\u0131n grubundan\u2026Yoksullara gereken paran\u0131n sa\u011flanmas\u0131 i\u00e7in kermes haz\u0131rl\u0131klar\u0131, diki\u015f nak\u0131\u015f g\u00fcnleri hep anneannemin evinde olurdu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Y\u0131llar ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e o kadar \u00e7ok deneyim ya\u015fam\u0131\u015ft\u0131 ki, g\u00f6z\u00fcnde \u015fan, \u015f\u00f6hret, para gibi d\u00fcnyasal de\u011ferler bir anda \u00f6nemini yitirmi\u015fti. Ya\u015flanman\u0131n zerafetini sergiliyordu. Ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f deneyimlerden kaynaklanan bir bilgelik kazanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u00d6l\u00fcm\u00fcnden sonra, aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerim onun bir azize oldu\u011fu fikrinde birle\u015fmi\u015flerdi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ben edebiyata y\u00f6neldi\u011fimde, haliyle roman okumalar\u0131ma a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131k verdim. \u0130lk ba\u015flarda zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 itiraf etmeliyim. Konular\u0131 ve zaman \u00e7izelgelerini takip edemiyordum. Ama yava\u015f yava\u015f c\u00fcmlelerin m\u00fczi\u011fini duymaya ba\u015flad\u0131m. Bir c\u00fcmlenin s\u00f6yledi\u011finden daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 ima edebilme \u015feklini anlad\u0131m. Edebiyat okumalar\u0131m konuya odaklanmam\u0131 keskinle\u015ftirdi. Beni sab\u0131rl\u0131 yapt\u0131. \u00c7evremdeki d\u00fcnyay\u0131 daha fazla fark etmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m. Ayr\u0131ca bu eserleri okuman\u0131n bana sessiz ve yaln\u0131z olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretti\u011fini de s\u00f6ylemeliyim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sessizlik ve yaln\u0131zl\u0131k. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her ikisi de beni sosyal medyan\u0131n g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcs\u00fcnden ve sonsuz haber d\u00f6ng\u00fcs\u00fcnden uzakla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131. Bana bir dinginlik kazand\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dinginlik ve i\u00e7 huzuru bana yeni pencereler a\u00e7t\u0131. Dinginli\u011fi i\u00e7ime alarak, yava\u015flayarak, etraf\u0131m\u0131 g\u00f6zlemleyerek bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k kazanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Parkta g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm ya\u015fl\u0131 adam, g\u00f6lgeler onu kaplamadan \u00f6nce bir kez ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 sallad\u0131, \u00e7ocuklara el sallad\u0131 ve parktan uzakla\u015ft\u0131. O anda i\u00e7 huzuru ya\u015f\u0131yor gibiydi. Anneannem yan\u0131nda olsayd\u0131, bank\u0131 payla\u015f\u0131rlar, ya\u015fant\u0131lar\u0131ndan s\u00f6z ederlerdi diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. \u0130kisi de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131, s\u00fcz\u00fclen \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131 izler ve g\u00fcn bat\u0131m\u0131ndan b\u00fcy\u00fck bir keyif al\u0131rlard\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131k, \u201cher \u015feyin gelip ge\u00e7ici oldu\u011funu bilme\u201d bilgeli\u011fidir. Bilgelik hayata farkl\u0131 bir yumu\u015fakl\u0131k ve ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fc katar. Bilgelik zarafeti de beraberinde getirir. Zarafet, ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n hem k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hem de g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc birlikte ta\u015f\u0131mas\u0131nda gizlidir. \u00c7izgilerle dolmu\u015f bir y\u00fcz, art\u0131k yaln\u0131zca ya\u015flanman\u0131n de\u011fil, bir \u00f6mr\u00fcn izlerini ta\u015f\u0131yan bir sanat eseri gibidir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Y\u0131llar\u0131n biriktirdi\u011fi tecr\u00fcbeler, insana kolay kolay eskimeyen bir arma\u011fan b\u0131rak\u0131r: Bilgelik. Bu bilgelik, kitaplarda bulunmaz; ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131n, sevin\u00e7lerin ve ac\u0131lar\u0131n yo\u011furdu\u011fu bir \u00f6z\u00fc ta\u015f\u0131r. Bir bak\u0131\u015f, bir susu\u015f, bir tebess\u00fcm bile y\u0131llar\u0131n \u00f6\u011frettiklerini dile getirir. Gen\u00e7li\u011fin keskin s\u00f6zleri zamanla yumu\u015far, yerini daha kapsay\u0131c\u0131 bir sessizli\u011fe b\u0131rak\u0131r. Ve insan anlar: Hayat, oldu\u011fu gibi kabullenildi\u011finde g\u00fczeldir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130\u015fte tam da bu noktada ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131k bir zarafete d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. \u00c7izgilerle \u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f bir y\u00fcz, k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n de\u011fil; ya\u015fam\u0131n dokudu\u011fu bir haritan\u0131n ta kendisidir. Beden art\u0131k daha yava\u015f hareket eder belki, ama her hareketin i\u00e7inde a\u011f\u0131rba\u015fl\u0131 bir incelik vard\u0131r: zarafet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zarafet, yaln\u0131zca bedenin de\u011fil, ruhun ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir \u0131\u015f\u0131kt\u0131r. O \u0131\u015f\u0131k, birikmi\u015f y\u0131llar\u0131n i\u00e7inden s\u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcp \u00e7\u0131kar; t\u0131pk\u0131 sonbahar g\u00fcne\u015finin yapraklara vurdu\u011funda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan derin tonlar gibi. Ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131k hayat\u0131n sonbahar\u0131d\u0131r belki, ama do\u011fan\u0131n en \u00f6zg\u00fcn renkleri o mevsimde a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131r. Dinginlik, bilgelik ve zarafetle birle\u015fti\u011finde, ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131k bir biti\u015f de\u011fil; hayat\u0131n en \u015fiirsel evresine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ben de parktaki adam ve anneannem gibi o dinginli\u011fi, o ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n getirmi\u015f oldu\u011fu zarafeti yakalayabilirsem kendimi \u00e7ok \u015fansl\u0131 hissedece\u011fim. Sadece ya\u015flanman\u0131n zarafetini ta\u015f\u0131mak hayat\u0131n bana kazand\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 en b\u00fcy\u00fck arma\u011fan olacak.<\/p>\n

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Ra\u015fel Rakella Asal Ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn parkta, bir bankta tek ba\u015f\u0131na oturan ya\u015fl\u0131 bir adam g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Ellerine bak\u0131yordu. Sanki ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ellerinde ta\u015f\u0131yor gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler i\u00e7indeydi. […]<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":124674,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[49],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/124672"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=124672"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/124672\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":125781,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/124672\/revisions\/125781"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/124674"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=124672"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=124672"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kentyasam.com.tr\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=124672"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}